Are You Reaching YOUR Goals or Someone Else’s?


We are reaching the half-way point of 2016. How are you doing with the goals that you had in mind for this year?

Goals are important. Everyone knows this. That’s why there are goal-setting retreats, workshops, seminars and journals. If you never pick a point on the horizon, how do you know which direction to walk?

However, most people’s goals aren’t really their goals. Many people set goals in reaction to the responsibilities, expectations and demands they face in their life. Maybe your goal is to make six figures this year, but you are motivated to make that money because you want to be seen as a successful person. Maybe your goal is to finish writing your book, but it’s not because you care about the book…you just want the approval of those who’ve said, “Hey, you should write a book!”  Maybe you are striving to get that advanced degree, but it’s only to satisfy the prodding of your parents. Or perhaps, your goal is to get that sale because you want to prove your value and worth to your boss or those around you.

Intentional goals are the ones that YOU actually care about because it is aligned to the values that you hold dear.  Intentional goals undergird your purpose and sets the course for your direction day-to-day with action steps to support them.

Of course, we’re bombarded every day with expectation and obligation. We tend to react to a constant barrage of requests, demands and last-minute emergencies. And when those are handled, it’s time to rest so we can get up and do it all again tomorrow.

My friend, it’s time to break the cycle. It’s time to evaluate. It's time to consider- what truly matters to you? Life is too short to live aimlessly.

In order to get in touch with the things that will make your life full of meaning and purpose, you may need to take quiet time to reflect on and listen to what it is you REALLY desire.

Leaving your family and responsibilities for a long weekend to venture into the woods for a journey of self-exploration may not be feasible. But you can start with a simple “time-down". A "time-down" is 5 to 10 minutes of time away from the busyness of life that will allow you the opportunity to ask yourself, “What do I really want/desire?”, "How do I want to finish off this year?", "Where do I want to emphasize my time?"

Once you have the pondered these questions, then take these steps:

  1. Write down the answers to these questions.

  2. Circle what most excites you.

  3. Put realistic deadlines next to them.

  4. And create your action plan to get them done.

Many things in life often seem impossible to achieve, or unreachable for a variety of reasons we’ve made up in our minds, or others have told us. But MANY goals are achievable when we think them through, plan them out in simple steps, and consistently allocate time to them. 

Life is too short to spend it chasing someone else’s goals or dismissing your own because someone else said it’s not possible.

If you find yourself always dreaming and never taking the action steps that would help you move forward, click here to schedule a complimentary session to see if coaching would help support you in the goals you might have in your life.