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Are you allowing age to keep you stagnant in life?
Recently, I have been seeing women disrupt the norm when it comes to age and what we “should” do at a certain age. I know that my life is inspired and motivated to live fully when I read their stories. If you feel you are too old to try your hand at something, let me encourage you with the stories of these women:
“You can have more than one love, more than one friend, more than one profession. It’s never too late for anything.” Julia Kertesz
Julia’s husband left her at the age of 70. She moved to London with her son at the age of 74. She became a storyteller after joining Toastmasters and when she saw that people would laugh at her stories, she went to a comedy workshop. At the age of 80, Julia is a professional storyteller and an award-winning stand-up comedian! Go figure. Oh and her previous careers included: chemist turned computer-scientist-turned photographer!!
So what’s stopping you??
2. Oleda Baker- (www.oleda.com) at the age of 79 (she will be 80 this August), is not afraid of taking a risk. She was a model whose career began in the 20’s. Currently, she is the founder and CEO of her own health and beauty products company, and the author of 10 books and a novel. She is an artist whose oil paintings have been exhibited in museums and galleries around the country. Who says you can’t do more than one thing??
“Procrastination is the worst enemy.” Oleda Baker
Do you have a number of interests? That is just fine- go for it and have fun!
3. Liz Palmer’s passion was running fast. She ran track in college but she suffered what she thought was a career-ending injury. For 25 years, she would continue to jog, but what she really wanted was to run fast.
After stumbling across an online ad for a masters track event, her life changed forever. She is now the fastest female sprinter over the age of 50 in human history!! Yes! She is breaking American and world records, but more importantly she’s able to resume her passion again!
“Erase the phrase- ‘I’m too old’ from your vocabulary forever.” Liz Palmer
What is your passion? What have you placed on the back burner?
For more stories like this, visit www.growingbolder.com. Don’t allow age to stop you from the things that interest you, from discovering what else you might enjoy, to engaging life with vigor and passion.
This is your moment. Be inspired to thrive again.
Age is just a number-it is your mindset that makes the difference. Tweet That!
“There comes a point in life that if you don’t take that risk, you become so comfortable in your daily life that you will never take that risk.” Sanchaita Gajapati Raju Tweet That!
I am always on the search to read about amazing women that are disrupting the ways we do things in the world. So what does that mean?
They refuse to live according to the status quo.
They are not living at the affect of life. Instead they are paving a new direction.
They inspire and motivate me to consider my life and how I can embrace life with intention and focus.
In the midst of the challenges of their lives, they see hope and continue to press on.
They just don’t give up!!
So, here’s my list:
Barbara Beskind: Living at a retirement community and at the age of 90, she is smashing stereotypes by being the oldest member of IDEO (human-centered design team) in Silicon Valley. She is refusing to say that she is too old to make a difference in the world. Her projects deal with improving the lives of elderly people, and you can learn more about her here.
Megan Grassell: She is the owner and founder of Yellowberry, a bra company for young girls. She started this company because when she was a young girl it was difficult to find a proper fitting bra for herself and her growing, changing body. Through this product, she is inspiring, and encouraging the confidence of young, developing girls to enjoy their youthful stages of life. You can learn more about her mission at www.yellowberry.com.
Irene Easley: A wonderful friend that I know dearly, is the author of a “Sex And The Christian Wife”, an important issue within the religious circles that many are not talking about. Her boldness has made a way to bring this dialogue front and center.
Sanchaita Gajapati Raju: As the the founder of a group called Social Awareness Newer Alternatives, which provides clean drinking water and eco-friendly toilets to people in need in India. She uses technology and locally sourced solutions to support the people in India. So, Sanchaita uses solar panels to run water-treatment plants and then sends the waste water to community toilets.
Kerri Warne: A woman who lost her son as a result of drowsy driving and through that tragedy, is now raising awareness around this important topic through her organization called TyREDD (pronounced “tired”): Tyler Raising Education for Driving Drowsy. www.tyredd.com
Melissa Kieling: She is the mother of three that found herself struggling to find a product to keep her kids' lunches cool and safe until lunchtime. So, she patented the idea for a lunch bag with a freezable gel built into its lining – an idea that grew into PackIt Personal Cooler. Five years later, PackIt has grown into a $14 million business with products that span lunch, wine, baby, picnic and shopping products with a distribution reaching more than 40 countries internationally. Oh and by the way, her experience before her business succes was school bake sales! Her encouragement to all of us is, “Don’t let inexperience stop you!”
Johanna Basford: Her coloring book, “The Secret Garden”, has become a global best seller for adults who enjoy coloring! Who would have thought this would happen? She had doubts herself, as she took 9 months to create this book, freelancing during the day, and thinking that coloring for adults was silly. However, “Secret Garden” has sold out in many markets worldwide and she is now working out her third book in response to the themes that her fans have suggested.
There are so many more women that I admire and I may try to continue doing this each month. I am sharing this list with you as a source of encouragement, inspiration, and motivation.
Be inspired to thrive in your life. Where are you right now? What have you put on the back burner? Who can support you? All of the ones mentioned above had people in their lives to support them to take their steps. They were not alone and you don’t have to be either.
THRIVE in your moments,
I started coaching in 2010. Being new to this profession, I was not sure what I would find but I knew I wanted to help and support others to begin taking steps forward in their lives. Fast forward to 2015 and after having successfully coached many clients, I have come to the conclusion that there are often 3 reasons that a person becomes stuck in life.
They have lost a sense of who they ARE!
They have lost sight of their direction in life.
Their relationship to time, money and important people are off balance.
For some it could be one of these three reasons and for others it could be a combination. Regardless, the beautiful part in all of this is that you don’t have to remain in that space. You have a choice. You can remain a victim to your circumstances or you can make choices that will help you change, but you will only be able to get unstuck when you truly want that for your life.
Do you believe that you are meant to thrive in life?
You are not here to simply live a life where each day just rolls into the next. Thriving in life looks different for each person. However, finding that for YOU and your life is so important.
Click here to listen to a talk that I gave a couple of weeks ago regarding this topic.
Where do you find yourself? What are the areas where you are stuck?
You can get unstuck but you don’t have to take those steps alone. You will find resources by clicking here to help you or you can send me a note and we can talk about a strategy that would support you to get you moving again!
Thrive in your moments,
Have you ever known exactly where you wanted to go, but hesitated because you didn’t know how to get there? Often that hesitation will lead us to do nothing! Our hesitation can continue for a week, a month, and then there we are 5 years later, sitting in the same place and doing the same thing.
This is perfectly natural and perfectly human. From a survival standpoint, we all want to know what’s in store for us in order to determine whether or not the risks outweigh the reward. The only trouble is that avoiding a step due to being unsure keeps you from ever accomplishing your dreams. Uncertainty keeps you from “falling down”, but also keeps you from progress. The comfort zone becomes your friend but also can become your foe.
Fortunately, YOU are really good at handling whatever comes your way. Every day you avoid disaster and arrive on the other side of thousands of challenges, big and small. Some days you are excited at the results and other days you wished things were different, and that is totally fine! How would you have known, if you had not taken that one step? Drawing confidence from life’s experience, and pulled by the desire of that which you seek, you can rise to meet the road ahead, even if you can only see three feet of it.
And most of the time, the three feet in front of you is all you really need to deal with. Once you have that handled, then there’s the next three feet, and the next, and as the old saying goes,
“By the yard it’s hard, but it’s a cinch by the inch.” Tweet That!
No matter what dream you are chasing or difficulty you are facing, if you just take the next step, you will almost certainly arrive at your destination safe, sound & successful.
What ONE step can YOU take TODAY to move in the direction you desire?
You were born with a unique set of gifts that nobody else possesses. When you choose to use those gifts you grow and bless those around you, as well.
But what if you don’t know what your gifts and talents are? Fortunately, that’s easy enough to determine. Here are a few questions to ask yourself when you’re not sure what you offer to those around you:
1. What do you like to do? Our talents usually show up as things we enjoy doing. For some it’s music, for others it’s managing teams. Find what you like to do and do more of that. You may not be able to give yourself fully to doing it all at once. However, set intentions to create more space in your life for what you like to do a little at a time. You’ll find that it not only makes others happy but it will make you happier knowing that you are helping others and connecting to what you were created to do.
2. What are you good at? Are you great at building things, or are you everyone’s trusted counsel? Are you good with a paintbrush, or are you better suited to create spreadsheets? In what areas do you excel? What comes naturally to you? This may not come to you at first because you’ve been doing it all along and it seems like a natural, everyday thing to you. But pay attention, what you’re good at is closer at hand than you think.
3. What do people come to you for? When people recognize talent, they ask for more of it. Maybe people ask your advice on relationships. Or maybe they come to you seeking a shoulder rub. Service is the greatest way to share your talents and give your gifts.
We are all unique, blessed with special gifts. We just need to figure out what they are. ~Michelle Parsons Tweet That!
When you are living on purpose and sharing with the world around you as only you can, you will inevitably live with purpose and on purpose. You are excited to wake up each morning. Your engagement in life and with others express your joy in living. This is truly infectious!
My gift is being that catalyst that challenges others within their status quo. I am passionate about helping others find their gifts and talents so they may live into their purpose.
What can YOU do TODAY to share your talents and give all that you’ve got?
If you are not sure what your gifts and talents might be, or if you think you know but aren’t sure how to freely share them, I have created a workbook that will help you discover this for yourself. Thrive in your Direction is a self study coaching program that will help you discover how to identify your natural talents, know when they are in use, and integrate them into everything you do to create a more fulfilling life, all at a very low investment. Click here to learn more.
You can also click here for 7 Simple Ways to Thrive, a free quiz to help you become aware of where you are today so you can begin to take steps to thrive in your tomorrow
THRIVE in your moments,
Every day, in some way, opportunity knocks on your door. And if you take too long to answer the door, opportunity, like any visitor, will move on.
This is due to the divine and natural timing of everything in life. If you pay attention, you will notice that everything in life has a rhythm. From the timing of good comedy to the way your body requires sleep and seems to also wake itself up, this rhythm is everywhere and in everything. When you’re relaxed, engaged and in step with these rhythms, things just begin to fall into place naturally.
However, the habit of procrastination takes you out of the natural rhythms of life.
Procrastination is opportunity’s natural assassin. Tweet That!
Usually procrastination comes from fear. Fear of an inner belief or assumption that you have created about who you are. It can also come as a result of just not knowing the how or why of what you are trying to accomplish. So instead of moving forward and doing what you know you should do, and following the natural flow of the rhythms that are naturally built into you, you stop in fear and procrastinate.
"The greatest amount of wasted time is the time not getting started." Dawson Trotman
As an example, If you’ve ever tried to dance when you’re afraid or nervous, you know how easy it could be to lose your rhythm. Fortunately, it’s just as easy to find it again if you stop, listen to the music and follow the rhythm that is naturally built into you.
The next time you find yourself procrastinating, ask yourself the following:
- What am I afraid of?
- Do I understand what is necessary to accomplish this task?
- Who can I call on for support?
- Have my priorities changed?
- What is my motivation for taking these steps?
In the meantime, ask yourself, “What opportunities are knocking on my door today?” Often these opportunities can come as the face of finding what you might really want to do in this next phase of your life. For example, getting your finances in order so you may be free of the hold that money has on the decisions you want make. Or a chance to become unstuck from the mundane tasks that make life seem as if our days roll from one to the next, without the possibility of ever seeing change.
What ever the circumstance, change may be something you desire, but you may not be ready to speak to a coach one-on-one. However, that does not need to stop you from making changes in your life. For this reason I have made some new opportunities available to you through e-coaching workbooks. All you have to do is click and download to begin making changes to your life today. Click here to find out more about these new e-coaching workbooks and how they can help you starting today.
To your moments,
The greatest single cause of procrastination in the world today is perfectionism.
Despite the desire for everything to be awesome, what perfectionism creates most often is a stack of unfinished, “someday-maybe” dreams and ideals.
Perfection-based procrastination can be a tough challenge to overcome, so here are a few tips to help you.
Write down exactly what you want to do.
Whether you’re planning a dream vacation or birthing a new project, write down the vision in bold, clear terms.
Post your written vision somewhere you can see it.
Tape it up on your bathroom mirror, post it on the refrigerator or set it next to your computer. Look at your statement every day.
Take simple steps toward your dream daily.
Every morning, write out 3 simple things you can do to step toward your dreams. Maybe there’s a phone call you need to make, or an email you need to send. Maybe you need to renew your passport, or supplies you need to buy. Do at least one of these tasks EVERY DAY.
“Don’t be unwilling to take those little steps; in them are residing great journeys. Move on.” ~Israelmore Ayivor Tweet That!
If you get started right now, by the time things are “just right” you’ll be well on your way and those new resources will be a lot more useful.
What will YOU do to step toward your dreams TODAY?
I created an assessment to help you become aware of where you are today so you can begin to make changes that will encourage you to step boldly into the direction of your dreams. Click here to take the assessment today!
THRIVE in your moments,