What would you tell your 21-year old self?

I was reading a Facebook post the other day and it really made me pause and consider, what would I say to my 21-year-old self if I had the chance? Here are a few things that came to mind...

No Matter How Much You Try To Please People, You Will Always Fall Short. 

So instead of allowing that to get you down, decide to live life fully. Understand that there is only one of you. It gets exhausting trying to make sure that you always say the right thing, do the right thing, and be the right thing according to someone else’s standards. Attempting to live into this type of perfection leaves you resentful and bitter as you make your choices based on someone else’s approval.

Learn To Enjoy The Little Moments In Life. 

I remember after I graduated from college at the age of 21 years old, the questions from my well-meaning family and friends began to roll in. Questions like, when are you going to get a job? When you are you getting married? When will you have children? When are you going to buy a house?  And believe it or not, these types of questions still are asked today. I say all this to remind you how quickly time passes, and not to get so caught up in the destination that you forget about the process, because it is in all those roller coaster moments that make life so beautiful and challenging all at the same time.

Be Flexible With This Thing Called "Career".

When I graduated from college, I began to see the shifts in high schools towards “specialized” programs. I am not saying that it is wrong or right. However, if I had the chance today, I would tell my 21-year-old self that this thing called a “career” is forever changing. It is not static and in different seasons of your life, a "career" can look very different. Although you come out of college with this specialized degree, you may end up in your 40’s doing something completely different. So be flexible. Don’t allow the degree or your journey after high school to define the rest of your life. Instead use it as a launching pad to discover various possibilities that are available to you.

Don’t Try To Be So Perfect. 

Allow space for mistakes. You learn so much from each and every one of them. They are your gifts to grow and mature. So put perfect aside and decide to be teachable instead.

Remember That You Are Not Alone. 

The Creator of the universe is always there to guide you. It is not religion that is important, but a relationship with God that is far richer, authentic, and life changing. For me, this relationship is the constant, never changing foundation to my existence on this Earth.

Don’t Compare Yourself To Anyone Else. 

There is only one you and you are uniquely and wonderfully made. So live into your priorities and your brilliance. When you do this, you give space and permission for others to do the same, as well. More importantly, you will slowly loosen the grips on the types of competition that only bring division.  

There is so much more that I would add here, but this list gets the ball rolling for me. In all of this, the underlying factor that is glaring to me is that time is precious. It flies by so quickly and although I would have loved the chance to share these things with my 21-year-old self, it is still relevant today to my 42-year-old self, as well. What about you? What is relevant to you today that you would have wanted to share with your 21-year-old self?

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To your moment,
Coach Sheeba